What systematic mixing workflow yields cohesion and loudness for intermediates?

[Tyler_J]

I'm an intermediate home music producer working in a digital audio workstation, and I've hit a plateau with my mixing techniques. My tracks have clear individual elements, but they lack the professional cohesion, depth, and loudness I hear in commercial releases. I understand the basics of EQ, compression, and reverb, but I'm struggling with more advanced concepts like parallel processing, mid-side EQ, and effective bus compression. For more experienced producers, what is your systematic approach to building a balanced mix from the ground up? How do you use reference tracks effectively without just copying them, and what are your go-to methods for creating a sense of space and width without making the mix muddy? Are there any specific plugins or stock tools you consider essential for achieving a polished, competitive master?